Is worry getting in the way of you letting your teen grow up?
Are frequent fights and arguments contributing to feelings
of anger and hurt, and causing separation between you and
Are you and your teen feeling as close as you want to feel?
Parenting teens with greater joy and ease is
Sometimes the stress of life gets in the way of relating
well with our teens. Communicating with them in the ways
that we prefer may seem just beyond our reach. You know the
You ask them how their day went and they shrug their
shoulders. You ask if they have any homework and they roll
their eyes. Later, they ask you if they can go out on
Friday night, but you notice that they haven't completed
their chores. You've got to finish a final draft for a
presentation at work the next day, and you don't have time
for this. The situation gets more heated, and one or the
both of you begin to yell, and before you know it your teen
is slamming their bedroom door and you're feeling
frustrated and hopeless.
With so many pressures (i.e. work, finances, caring for
aging parents, monitoring our own health, and concern about
the state of the world), many mothers, and fathers alike,
have found it increasingly difficult to bridge the gap with
their teens. Having time for relaxation, let alone fun with
the family, may be a foreign concept. The pressure can feel
Finding ways to breathe, both literally and physically can
be enormously helpful, not to mention: we need the oxygen.
Meditation, laughter, yoga, exercise, nature, praying,
crying. It can all help.
It can also help to talk with a
Ask yourself what would it take to change things around. It
is possible to have the kind of loving relationship with
your teen that you have always wanted. The power of
intention, commitment and openness to learning can go a
long way towards creating the relationship that you are
seeking. Chances are, you have had some beautiful
experiences with your teen. I want to explore with you how
you can make that way of relating more sustainable. I want
to know what you've tried before and
how I can help right now.
I am married, and a mother of two children, an adolescent
and a toddler. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family
Therapist and I love helping people find answers. More than
that, I love witnessing the beauty of harmonious
relationships. I specialize in helping parents and teens
get along better through experiences of intimacy. I do this
by creating a space where parents and teens really hear
each other, and by helping each person to honor greatness
in the other. I would love to have the opportunity to help
you and your family.
addition to working with parents and teens, I work with
couples who are struggling [with a specific interest in
interracial couples], individual adults, and
an appointment, contact DeVera Jackson-Garber at
310-415-4035. Office located at 2730 Wilshire Boulevard,
Suite 250, Santa Monica, CA 90403.